Do not let tragedy, bitterness and hatred turn you into Absalom (http://www.gotquestions.org/who-was-Absalom.html), whose anger, bitterness and self-righteousness lead him onto a destructive life path that characterizes unhealthy, self-aggrandizing modern celebrities and rulers that populate our current media.
The high intensity energies experienced during distress and suffering can really 扭曲 ( twist and pervert) us. We must be alert and pay extra attention to manage these energies, to free ourselves through Christ’s true forgiveness, then to forgive ourselves, forgive others, and bind/dedicate ourselves to goodness regardless of what our dark sides attempt to tug us towards.
Some directions on goodness include Ephesians 4:25-5:2, as posted below. There are many other verses in the New Testament letters that are awesome directions for a life in the light that is truly free and beneficial to others.
“Ephesians 4:25-5:2 Living Bible (TLB)
25 Stop lying to each other; tell the truth, for we are parts of each other and when we lie to each other we are hurting ourselves. 26 If you are angry, don’t sin by nursing your grudge. Don’t let the sun go down with you still angry—get over it quickly; 27 for when you are angry, you give a mighty foothold to the devil.
28 If anyone is stealing he must stop it and begin using those hands of his for honest work so he can give to others in need. 29 Don’t use bad language. Say only what is good and helpful to those you are talking to, and what will give them a blessing.
30 Don’t cause the Holy Spirit sorrow by the way you live. Remember, he is the one who marks you to be present on that day when salvation from sin will be complete.
31 Stop being mean, bad-tempered, and angry. Quarreling, harsh words, and dislike of others should have no place in your lives. 32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God has forgiven you because you belong to Christ.
5 Follow God’s example in everything you do just as a much loved child imitates his father. 2 Be full of love for others, following the example of Christ who loved you and gave himself to God as a sacrifice to take away your sins. And God was pleased, for Christ’s love for you was like sweet perfume to him.”
And I just want to add, forgive. Be patient, loving, truthful, be fair, be just, yet learn to forgive to release burdens to God the ultimate judge and the only one who has capacity to be truly fair.
He can make our feet like deer’s feet on the most treacherous terrains and hugest, most impossible cliffs. (Psalm 18:33)